Trying for a baby is fun, until you are trying for a baby.

Trying for a baby is fun, until you are trying for a baby.

Infertility and IVF can quietly change intimacy in ways many couples aren’t prepared for. When sex becomes timed, tracked, and tied to test results, it often stops feeling spontaneous or fun—and can start to feel more like a chore or a medical task than a connection. If intimacy feels stressful, awkward, or even nonexistent during treatment, please know: this is normal.

You are not broken, and neither is your relationship. Many couples experience emotional distance, pressure, or loss of desire during fertility treatment. A few gentle ways to keep connection alive include taking sex off the calendar when possible, creating intimacy that isn’t goal-driven, laughing when things feel awkward, and giving yourselves permission to rest. Fertility treatment is a season—and it doesn’t define your closeness or your future.